Sunday, May 10, 2009

Happy Mothers Day to you wonderful mothers! You make life worth living.

Dear Ones,
Well I'm sick again, not sure how it happened but I woke with a sore throat and its been really rough all day. I've managed to get some work done, tomato plans planted, flowers out to Nan's resting place compliments of Ray and Lois. It always seems so unreal to visit her there as she never stayed in one place very long during her interesting life.
It was surreal today, I knew I should be doing something for someone but I knew Steve and Jason were celebrating mothers day with Nikki and Jo so all my instincts not to mess up and forget Mothers day were for naught.
It was a lovely day I guess but most of it for me was napping in the recliner.
Early afternoon I was feeling especially bed and thought perhaps some good food would help. Here is what I prepared and I can recommend it.

I had brown rice already cooked and prepared it in a frying pan with a little oil and some soy sauce over low heat. At the same time I had a package of mixed veges steaming in the microwave in their packaging direct from Safeway. I used a combo of edamae, green beans, mushrooms which I would cook the full 6 minutes next time. The edamae really needs to be cooked completely. I diced a fresh tomato and then put the veges over the bed of rice and sprinkled the tomatoes on the top. The result was outstanding, tasty, healthy and very filling. The soy sauce I used was a light version but the taste it added was excellent. I used about 1/2 cup of brown rice.

Can anyone tell me how to keep brown potatoes fresh? At this time I just keep them out on the counter but I notice they go bad pretty fast and start growing green shoots.

Well I'm facing one of the most challenging weeks in my 20 years of appraising. I have almost no work left to do. Tomorrow I'm seeing a place in Morgan Hill for a reverse mortgage and I have one divorce appraial and one driveby here in Discovery Bay. Then I'm caught up. I would ask for your prayers that the future will made a little clearer to me than it is now.

So good night to all,

love

tim

Saturday, May 9, 2009

Rested and ready

Dear Family and Friends,
In life there are so many bends in the road and intersections to force directional decisions. As long as we are alive we must choose, most decisions end up being either for God and good or for self and ultimately bad. Sometimes situations happen that force decisions on us that we would not have to make otherwise. Fight or flee, charm or disarm, reach out, reach in.
Today has been a day which required very little decision making.

After an interesting night which included a 12:30 session holding Kallie in my arms as she cried and then the wonderful sight of her mother in the doorway, wonderful for us both, Kallie reached up for her and I willingly surrendered. I had allowed the room to be too warm and she was miserable, in my anxious desire to keep her warm enough I had allowed the room to become too warm and she was miserable. Nikki changed her diaper and moved her into cooler clothes. Why is it that she laid still while her mother changed her and was a squirming machine when I done so. Somethings about life are not totally fair. So Kallie and her mother drove home after she downed a bottle. Keanna slept through it all fortunately and did not rise until 7 this morning. So I slept between 1:45 and 7. Keanna found the camcorder and had fun learning to use it to shoot a scene with me still in bed, speaking in a British accent. She got a kick out of that. I love to teach her to do new things and today she added video taping to her skills.

I pulled on sweats and we made Belgium waffles which turned out perfectly this time. She enjoyed her breakfast and then we drove to Tracy SDA Church for Sabbath School. Today we went to the Kingdom Kids program which is operated by Sylvia, Pat, Wes and Rod. They do a wonderful job with the class and Keanna learned many things and enjoyed getting to see her special friend Sylvia.

Knowing Nikki was on her way to meet us at Olive Garden for lunch we took time to stop at the McDonalds playground where she worked off some energy. Then we met up with Nikki and Kallie, had a lovely lunch and each went our own way. My way was to the big Lazy Boy leather recliner that has seen so much action over the years. As 3ABN played softly in the background I snoozed with faith Starr at my side and Lady at my feet. It was a pleasant afternoon with warm breezes blowing through the family room.

This evening Lois invited me to have a sandwich at Subway and their Gardenburger on wheat bread is excellent. When we came back it was growing dark but the front lawn called to me so as Lois sat in the driveway and supervised I mowed the tiny lawn, fed it, watered it, then put seed down (the label said to use by 1997) which I hope works for the brown spots, watered it again and then Ray arrived from San Jose for his two or three day stay.

It was the kind of day that reconnects one with cool breezes, good friends, precious Bible stories, family and kidos, phone calls to special friends, rest and calm emotional rebuilding.

I hope your Mothers day weekend is going great. Tomorrow morning I'll take flowers to Nan's gravesite and spend some time there. No reason to go to brunch at Marie Calendar's, no reason to find just the right card and gift. Just emptiness and a host of great memories.

Love to all,

Tim

Friday, May 8, 2009

Kidos are sleeping!

Dear Family and Friends,
Well here is is Friday evening, the house is quiet except for Kallie who is coughing tonight as she sleeps and I hear it over the monitor. Keanna read me a story tonight, that was really thrilling, how far we have come. She ate a huge plate of pasta, drank apple juice and played her video game, helped with Kallie and was her normal delightful self. Kallie has really turned full circle. Remember all that smiling and happy act! Well we have grown a bit. This evening I walked behind her as she crawled the length of the house several times, made it almost to the top of the stairs going to the upper level of the house and then came back down with help, would not sit in my arms in the rocker but wiggled and squirmed until she was back on the floor. She takes a couple steps here and there but walks well if holding onto anything. She drinks milk when she feels like it and throws it on the floor too, she is strong, will mimic anything you say or do, clap your hands, say boo, she is right back at you. She still smiles but only when she slows down enough between motions.
She blessed me with a pretty hefty diaper and between changing her, putting her into night clothes and attempting to keep her on the bed I was kicked, all four arms and legs were going in their own orbit and she alternated between laughing and crying as I took some time doing what her mother or father would do in seconds. Half a package of wipes later and with sweat running down my forehead she was clean, dressed and happy. Wow do I admire parents.
Now she and her sister are sleeping and tonight of course every one of the three night lights I plug into the wall have blown bulbs. I could not believe it. Keanna looked up at me and said with a serious face, perhaps you need to add them to your list Pappa, a list that already has red jello, rice milk and now bulbs for the night lights.
Today has been as different from yesterday as day and yes night! Yesterday I could not stay awake, I was down and felt like just giving up. In comparison today I rose early, showered and came right to my desk and by noon had written two appraisals including discovering a way to create that dreaded new form 1004MC using data from the San Francisco board of MLS. I honestly believe it was a business miracle, I clicked on a different button and there was all the data I needed laid out before me, I had never seen that page before. And by the time I was ready to walk out to my car Jean had sent me a finished report she had done her part on and I did my part and then shipped it out as well, that is three off the list, the three people were most anxious about. Am I caught up? No way but am I in a better place? Oh yes by far. What a difference this day has made. And how thankful I am for good friends who simply will not just quit and go away, instead they stay engaged in my life and demonstrate caring by intervention.
There have been few times in my adult life when I had less grasp on what the near future will bring. Will I be able to get enough work to let me pay my bills? Will I be able to make the transition from relationship business to management company business with impersonal deadlines, reduced fees and constant demands? How will I be able to replace the steady stream of COD payments I've enjoyed for the last few months now that buyers and homeowners can no longer pay me directly?
As a good friend pointed out recently I am still here, still in my house after all these months of high uncertainty and of barely meeting due dates for bills. Oh I can think of a few right now, looming PG&E, payroll, medical bills, insurance, data. Oh a few thousand would be so nice and I keep hearing rumors that my big client is about to close a bunch of loans. After months of waiting it is time for sure.
But above all of this tonight I have my little kidos here under my roof, doing for them what their grammy loved to do and what she sure would be doing if she were still here. Its the least I can do and it has so much joy along with anxiety. This is living, not pushing paper, rushing from house to house but time with family and friends, doing important things.
It is quiet still, Kallie whimpers and coughs and then goes back to sleep. I have the AC on low in her room keeping it uniform in temperature, same with Keanna.
Thanks for reading along friend and family, thanks for your good thoughts and best wishes. I have them for you as well. Have a meaningful weekend and enjoy celebrating God's greatest gift to the family, mothers.

love

tim

Thursday, May 7, 2009

gray day

Dear Friends and Family,
Ken and I walked this morning and that seems so long ago. It has been a long dismal day. This morning as I was making oatmeal I also started a loaf of bread. This time I restrained myself and did not open it once. The loaf is not the biggest but is near perfect and very dense. Great bread. I cut a slice and put avocado on it, then I walked out onto the deck and just felt the breeze and watched ducks as they meandered across the lake on a zig zag course.
I've been stuck to this chair most of the day and accomplished almost nothing it seems. Yes I've wrestled my way through conditions, taken some orders, two through a sort of management company called Appraisal Port. They only charge $10 for each order they pass along. The actual work came from Chevy Chase Bank, two foreclosures over in Solano County. They want me to see them tomorrow and then get the reports back to them tomorrow too, well that might not happen but I'll do my best. Plus write a couple reports in the morning too.
I've had a very hard time settling down to work today. As I think about the bigger picture I think that three weeks of constant Zyrtec may be dragging me down mentally. All I want to do is sleep all day.
I think I'm supposed to have the girls tomorrow night, that will be a nice change. They add smiles and laughter to the house, those special things that are totally missing. The dogs try to smile and beg constantly which is sort of humorous.
This afternoon I had to make a quick run to Union City to see a place who tenants were deaf so I had to go through a special interrupter but it all worked out fine. It was a tiny duplex in good condition. Now to write the report first thing in the morning and email it out to the management company for a whopping 1/2 normal fee. Actually I'm glad to have the work.
Its time to sign off and go to bed. Today I was so excited over the mail, it contained a check but then the excitement sort of lost its luster, the check was for $75, not $450 I expected. I know be grateful in little things, I'll tell Honda that when they call again for the payment! Should work out well.

love to all

Tim

Wednesday, May 6, 2009

A taste of life

Dear Family and Friends,
There were several moments today that had joy in them, brought smiles to my face.

I started my day by a drive up to Sacramento to see a house that turned out to be located in a wonderful older area with tree lined streets and highly varied home styles. The owner was a fireman with lots of interesting things to share.

The next appointment was with Barb and Gerry Lammerding at the The Old Spaghetti Factory located downtown Sacramento. I was there to deliver Gerry's security pillow he had left after his visit a week ago. Well in the process we enjoyed a wonderful lunch with whole wheat pasta, a great salad and some very tasty ice cream. They both had a plan up their sleeves to help offset my stupidity when I lost the money at Safeway and insisted on sharing some green. I was really surprised and I could tell they had already decided and they are very hard to argue with. Thanks guys, thanks very much.

In the afternoon I drove back and worked in the office a bit before heading to Concord to try yet again at a property that I have been stood up a couple times. This time the lady was there was had me wait in the car until she could take a shower, that was a first. Then I inspected the house and I found her to be a little strange, still coping with a divorce and trying to figure out her future options. Then while I was already in Concord I went and shot comps for a house a saw a couple days ago, they decided to go ahead with the appraisal.

Today was grief group night, this group is just for those who have lost spouses. It was very worthwhile and helpful to me personally. This is a safe haven where its OK to still talk about how you feel in spite of time passing as everyone understands perfectly what you feel.

Now I'm home and heading for bed as 6:15 comes early in the morning for the walk. My new orders are almost non existent now. Just working up things I've already seen and hoping for something to break. I've been able to apply for one management company per day and so far I've been able to do it by sending emails with all the info they need. I hope to see orders someday as a result.

Suzie is facing her big surgery day next Tuesday and I know she will appreciate your prayers. I also found out today from Jason that Timothy is quite ill with something that requires his taking steroids. Jason hopes it won't get in the way of his future baseball career! I think Jason and Jo would appreciate prayers for Timothy as he copes with this nasty condition. I miss him.

love to all

tim

Tuesday, May 5, 2009

A full day, fun in the park with Keanna

Good evening
Just a quick blog tonight. This has been an interesting day. Up early to hit the road by 7 for El Sobrante and then Richmond. After finishing up in Richmond in the rain I headed back to Longs for meds and then home to pick up Keanna at school. I love the way she comes running out full of shouts and joy and then we walk / run to the car to begin our afternoon. Today we headed to the golden arches and then to a surprise place, it was Safeway and I knew she had her eye on some sunglasses. We shopped a bit and she begged an onion ring from the deli (no charge). Then we drove back home so she could play her new game and I could do some work. After 4 we walked to the park where she made a new friend and played her heart out while my heart was in my throat as she swung from bar to bar on those little arms, the same arms that no so long ago were in a cast and with pins. Oh boy the heart races. Then we walked back home where she began to create pictures for her mom's, mothers day is coming you know. She also sang a May day song beautifully, on key and with clear diction.
Nikki came with Kallie a bit later and we had fun talking. Then she headed home and I went back to town to pick up even more meds, that makes $140 today for my co pay. Yikes.
Now its time to go to bed. Ken and I walk at 6:30 and then I leave for Sac at 8:15 for an appointment. I hope to hook up with Barb and Gerry but now its too late to call and confirm. Hope they read this. I'll call when I'm on the road in the morning too.
Orders are dropping off now as all the normal people cannot order directly any more. Things look pretty bleak. One management company did contact me and I responded on line with the things they were asking for this afternoon. That was a good sign.
Good night all

love

tim

Monday, May 4, 2009

mellow day

Dear Family and Friends,
Back from a late afternoon appraisal that came up at the last minute in Dublin. Ate while I was there and now I'm back home.
Worked in, my Morgan Hill appointment was for next Monday, not today. I used the time well to produce a lot. Took a break this afternoon for banana bread and coffee over at Ray and Lois's house. I could not stay awake so finally resorted to coffee which seemed to do the trick.
No money today but no bills either so it was a wash sort of. One management company called to ask me to find another sponsor and then they would consider letting me be on their approved list. They pay pretty well and look like a good company so lets hope that works out. Did get an order from a management company, paying $250 for an appraisal in Union city but they want it back by Wednesday and a property management company has to arrange entry. No way by Wednesday morning, no way.
Tomorrow morning I have to be in El Sobrante by 8:30 and then on to Richmond, then back to pick up Keanna at school at 2 pm.
When I drive I have lots of time to think and I often remember some point in our joined lives that brings smiles or tears. We struggled through so much, graduate school in Michigan, hanging sheetrock to make extra money with snow blowing through the buildings we were working in. At times they had us sheetrock before they put in the windows, it was wild and then when it was Friday only those people who got to the bank first with their checks could cash them, they often bounced for days. Interesting times.
Nan was always a team player, she would do her part and then help with my part. She was a lovely girl when we met, a beautiful woman when we married, an elegant woman as we aged and a spirited warrior when she was struck down with GIST. I know of no one else that even comes close to her in spirit, spunk, class, humor, loyalty and just being a woman. She loved to shop, to travel, to learn new things, to be in charge, to make plans and keep them, to watch out for her kids and grandkids. I was really blessed and made whole by being with her.
For some of you who seldom stop to really think about what you have in your significant other you should take a minute and allow yourself to think of losing her, him. Of course there is no way you can really feel it but still you can think seriously about what you have at your disposal. If you don't really love in tangible ways the one you are with shame on you. Knock off the games, the getting even or keeping score. Grab what God has blessed you with and care!

love

tim